Very little is said of Joseph in the Bible. He is possibly one of the least discussed men of Scripture. If we examine the few Scriptures concerning him, we find an exemplary man and father. Briefly and succinctly here is what Matthew 1:18-25 says. 

 

Joseph, being a just man — Few people are given this description. Mary had “obviously” been unfaithful, and Joseph was going to see that the situation was dealt with as the law allowed.

 

Not willing — He could make a decision. He knew what he did NOT want to do although he hadn't fully decided on what TO do. This apparent indecisiveness was actually the manifesting of another character trait we'll discuss later.

 

To make her (Mary) a public example — Joseph was merciful. He could have done anything up to and including stoning, but he loved Mary too much for her to receive the justice she apparently deserved.

 

While — This single word that we may often over-read, simply and clearly relates that Joseph was not brash, but patient. He didn't want to make a hasty decision that he would regret later. 

 

He thought on these things — Joseph was wise. This is closely related to his patience, but time is sometimes necessary for the mind to weigh out all of the options and (as many people forget) the consequences of his decisions. 

 

The angel of the Lord appeared to him and said — He was a spiritual man. Some do not believe in angels because they have not seen them. Joseph did not seem to be too disturbed by the angel, so he already assumed they existed. 

 

"Joseph, Son of David — You are of the kingly line, Joseph. You could rightly be heir to the kingship of Israel. 

 

"… the child is conceived by the Holy Ghost — “Really!? Pregnant by the Holy Ghost. That’s rich.” No, that was not his response. He received it by faith as fact. His previously mentioned spirituality  is accented by the faith he exhibited here. 

 

Did as the angel said — Obedience. Spirituality and faith are not complete if they are not put into action. Joseph, in addition to the other traits discussed was obedient. 

 

Joseph was a confident man. This is not directly stated, but certainly inferred. By not punishing Mary for infidelity, Joseph appeared to admit that he was the father, and therefore unable to control himself. He bore the blame and shame for the "early" pregnancy. Joseph knew what he had done… and what he hadn't… and lived the rest of his life shadowed by the notions of the community. 

 

I wish to follow Joseph’s example and encourage other men (and boys) to do the same.